There are some people who seem to convey a natural and unshakeable trust. They usually stand out in career, in love relationships, and in any possible social situation. You can repair it.
But for most of us, it’s not always easy to act with a confident stance in front of others.
The good news? Everyone can develop their trust. And one of the first steps is to change your body language.
First, with the correct posture, you will transmit signs that will build a more positive image for others, bringing various benefits to your interpersonal relationships.
In addition, studies have already proven that body language influences (and much) the action of the brain. If you physically behave as a leader, the brain acts accordingly. Madness, right? But it is science.So without further ado, sirs, here are 9 tips to demonstrate confidence with your gestures:
1 KEEP THE RIGHT POSTURE
Let’s start with the basics. Maintaining an upright posture, shoulders aligned and not bent forward, is the first step to having good body language.
If you get all crooked, you’ll get a sloppy and narrow image. This goes for when you are standing or sitting as well.
2 CHANGE UP AND LOOK FORWARD
Now that you’ve settled your back and shoulders, it’s time to take care of your head. Keep your chin up – without overdoing it, obviously – instead of letting it point you down. Confident people do not stare at the ground but look forward.
3 DO NOT CROSS THE ARM
This is a classic gesture people make when they are uncomfortable with a situation: crossing their arms, which is a defensive position. Avoid doing this.
4 GESTICULE WITH HANDS
Gesturing with your hands will help you express yourself better and, moreover, pass an expansive air.
A curiosity? One study found that during the speech, charismatic leaders gesticulate four times more with their hands than normal people.
Ah, the smile, This is a powerful gesture to show others that you are a trustworthy, sociable and pleasant guy. After all, if you’re a confident and good-natured guy, why would you be closed-faced?
6 HAVE A HAND-HAND TIGHTENING
We have already done a text here on mascos specifically on the art of handshaking. The ideal is neither too strong (to the point of intimidating people) nor too weak (so you do not seem insecure). The key is to find the ideal balance of firmness.
7 AVOID GESTURES OF CARINGTapping your fingers – or wiggling your feet while sitting, or scratching your face while talking, etc – are classic signs of nervousness, anxiety, and restlessness. Show that you are sure of yourself these gestures.
8 MAKE VISUAL CONTACT
Fleeing from eye contact is an indicator of insecurity. But if you exaggerate, on the other hand, you will look like a maniac trying to intimidate people. The secret is in the middle.
Experts suggest looking directly into each other’s eye at around 50% of the talk time.
One technique they suggest is to imagine a triangle in the person’s face – left eye, right eye, and mouth – by varying their focus between these three points every few seconds.
Of course, it is absolutely normal to take a few looks away during the conversation, but always with the expression of who is trying to remember something or reflecting on the subject. Take care not to pass up an air of disinterest.
9 INSPIRE ON CONFIDENT MEN
Finally our tips, a nice idea is to observe confident men you admire – can be characters series/movies as Harvey Specter of ‘Suits’ personalities or real like David Beckham – and play some of their gestural habits.
BONUS: RETIRING YOUR SPEECH MANNERS
This item here does not refer exactly to body language and, rather, to spoken language. But it’s so important that we decided to put it in the story anyway.
Mannerisms like ending every affirmation with “huh?” Or inserting several pauses with “… is” in the middle of the sentences do not match the attitude of a confident man.