They say that the more interesting the person is, the more interesting are the mistakes made by him. After all, the mistakes we make define who we are.
While we tend to demand perfection from ourselves, we must bear in mind the fact that we all commit – and will continue to commit – a long series of mistakes throughout our lives .
But that does not mean we can not give our best to commit the least mistakes possible or at least not to make the same mistake twice . And one of the best ways to do so is by learning from our misconceptions.
This is not always easy, because the only way we can learn from an error is by doing something that many of us are not willing to do: admitting that we are wrong.
That is, we must stop blaming many of our wrong decisions on other people or on the universe itself. When we blame others and forget our own responsibility , we distance ourselves from any progress.
It is important to take into account the fact that the more challenging our goals, the more challenging the difficulties we will encounter.
And the higher our ambitions , the more we will depend on our ability to overcomethe mistakes we made and learn from them, being self-confident enough to see them with understanding and neutrality and brave enough to make changes.
To begin such a process, begin by categorizing your mistakes in the following areas, and then dealing with them in the most appropriate way:
1 STUPID ERRORS
These are the inevitable mistakes , the stupid things that just happen – such as dropping the last package wrap on the floor, tripping over your own feet, knocking books off the shelf, and so on.
➤ How to deal with this type of error? First, trying to be more attentive and less distracted. Secondly, making use of our sense of humor and simply laughing at ourselves
2 SIMPLE ERRORS
These are the mistakes which, although they may very well have been avoided and have not been because of a series of mistaken decisions which we have taken, do not have very deep or lasting consequences and can be solved with relative ease. An example: beer ends in the middle of a party for the simple reason that we did not properly calculate guests.
➤ How to deal with this type of error? Just let us be more careful and regulate ourselves for more strategic planning – and be ready to laugh if it happens at any point in time.
3 USEFUL ERRORS
Useful mistakes are those we make when we are struggling to expand our skills. They happen because we are trying to achieve a result superior to our abilities, so that we can not fail to make them.
Such mistakes are the most positive we can make. If we never did, we would be impeding our own development by avoiding getting out of the comfort zone. For it is necessary to challenge ourselves in order to acquire more knowledge.
➤ How to deal with this type of error? The problem here is in repetition , if it happens. When we are always making the same mistakes, this tends to indicate that we are too distracted and unfocused, or that our approach to study is ineffective, and that perhaps we should seek out a new strategy that will lead us to learn this skill. In other cases, it may also mean that we must take a step back because we are not yet prepared to meet this challenge.
4 THE LOST ERRORS
The mistakes of carelessness are those that require some effort to be prevented , such as those related to lack of punctuality, such as when we are always late for work or meetings, or lack of discipline , such as when we eat fast food every day. days or we stop exercising for more than a week, among others.
➤ How to deal with this type of error? Such misconceptions, which we commit from habit or natural tendencies, require us to make some changes in ourselves. Examine your attitude. Recognize what can be changed in it. If you are not able to recognize what is questionable in your behavior, you are forever entangled in the same mistakes and limitations.
5 THE COMPLEX ERRORS
These, among all, are the most difficult to deal with – and, we must admit, the most interesting. We are now talking about errors that have complex motives , and that we can not figure out an obvious way to avoid repeating them in the future.
We can use as examples unsuccessful relationships or any kind of unfoldment that seems to us unsatisfactory or unpleasant and that has very considerable consequences for our lives.
➤ How to deal with this type of error? To get started, find someone to talk to about what happened. It is best to look for a person of relative neutrality. Based on your own experience , or the experience of those you know, such a person can help you find a way to solve your problems that otherwise would not have occurred to you.
And in describing what happened, defining your recollection of the sequence of events that led to the error, you will have the opportunity to revisit details that may have gone unnoticed. It is then suggested that we divide such large errors into smaller, easier-to-identify errors . They will get you to the heart of the problem, so you can solve it properly. Ask yourself the following questions:
- What was the sequence of events that led to this outcome?
- What were the little mistakes that became bigger ?
- What did I expect to happen? What actually happened?
- Could it have been possible to recognize the evidence that things would not have worked out sooner?
- What information do I have now, and which would have been useful at that time?
- What would I do differently if I could go back in time?
- How can I avoid going through something like that again?
- Given the circumstances, was this outcome really inevitable or could it have been avoided?
- What changes should I make to avoid making this kind of mistake?
- Which of these changes can be easily undertaken ? And which will be the most difficult to achieve?
- How would you react if something similar happened again?
Lastly, do not let an error lead you to question your ability to deal with the same situation properly if it does happen again. The best we have to do is analyze the past, learn from it and move on .